What can I do to give my boyfriend a wake up call? PLEASE HELP?

With the way you describe his lying and disrespect for you, it wouldn't be a bad idea to lose him. Instead of waiting for him to make decisions, make your plans with or without him. In fact, make more plans without him than with him. Let him sit home and play his games. You go out with friends and HAVE FUN! Eventually, he's going to hear how much fun you are having without him. Either he'll wake up or you'll find someone new.